Building People (Part 1)
Tim Keller | February 10, 1991
Overview
How do we get rid of bitterness toward others? Is it even possible? This sermon explores the external and internal side to getting rid of bitterness. Externally, forgiveness must sometimes be granted before it is felt; internally, you have to put on your “new self” in Christ.
Outline
Ephesians 4:25–32
We learn from Ephesians 4:25-32 that being honest, managing our temper, and avoiding harmful actions are all important. It also highlights the value of being kind and forgiving. The idea of bitterness is discussed, showing us why forgiveness matters and why it’s not good to hold onto grudges. The message ends by distinguishing between acting like a judge and acting like an executioner, reminding us that God wants us to leave behind harmful behavior. It also touches on the difficult yet important task of forgiving those who have hurt us, and responding to evil with kindness.
1. Forgiveness is granted before it is felt
Forgiveness is a command that helps us direct our anger at the problem, not the person, just like how God gets angry in a righteous way. It’s a deliberate choice to let go of bitterness and resentment, to absorb the hurt caused and promise not to bring it up again. Forgiveness is tough but doable and necessary, as it asks us to stop acting as judges, accepting that we too are flawed.
2. On the inside you have to put on the new man
The main point is that it’s important to respond to bad behavior with good behavior. This includes being grateful, respectful, and truthful, even when things get tough. It encourages us to pray for and wish well for those who have hurt us, rather than seeking revenge. It also emphasizes the need to stay kind and polite, even when it’s hard. Using a Star Wars example, it shows the negative impact of giving into anger and hatred.
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